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Being mindful in difficult times

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  In last two decades, Mindfulness has become very popular. I don’t want to assume that everybody knows what mindfulness is, however I think that lots of people have heard about it. I believe that a lot of people have had some sort of experience with mindfulness through reading books, attending workshops, listening to podcasts, learning from trainings at work or participating at classes in schools (the last one makes me particularly happy to know that Mindfulness is taught to young people). I also know that there are people who are mindful by nature. They don’t need classes of worldwide movements to teach them Mindfulness – they live by it (more in Enjoy Life). Even during the Pandemic, lots of people turned to spirituality in every shape and form, tried Mindfulness or deepened their practice.   What does it mean to be mindful? A dictionary explains that the word mindful means being conscious or aware of something, like obligations to your parents, or being in tune with your body.

Self-esteem is your self-perception

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  I have had an interest in self-esteem for a long time and decided to challenge that knowledge and myself in 2019 (action or no action paradox). I sent a proposal for a presentation during the ‘Current Counselling Trends in Ireland and United States Conference’ in Dublin 2019. My proposal got accepted and I began to wish I had never done it!! Until the very moment I stood in front of over 100 people, I had wanted to run. I didn’t run. Somehow I delivered a talk about something I am very passionate about. Ohh... complicated human nature… Ironically to some degree it gives an idea about how self-esteem fluctuates. On one hand there is a passion and conviction: yes, I can do it!! On the other hand there are doubts: am I good enough to do it? What if my presentation is crap? I kept comparing myself to a PhD presenter who delivered 6 hour long workshop on self-esteem a few month prior…funny that I neither went to that workshop, neither new anybody who participated or gave a feedback…   The

Compassion is your super power*

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  ‘Kill them with love’ - S. used to say to me while working together and dealing with extremely difficult customers. So we did… We killed them with love. S. used to make sure at the beginning that my killing was as good as hers. It progressed. The more I got the idea down the better it went. ‘Kill with love’ is a bit of an oxymoron, isn’t it? Love doesn't kill, does it? What S. meant is - no matter what they say or do - have compassion for them and patience. They are unwell. They might have no awareness of horrible they are being to other people. They have a very narrow tunnel vision of their own misery and perhaps feel better if they spread that misery around? If we treat them in the opposite way, perhaps it will plant a seed, which will grow and bear fruit in the future? It is a lovely way of changing the world and I am 100% for it, despite difficulties and frustrations it brings at times. It is so much easier to simply snap or ‘eat someone’ than feel loving kindness towards the